“We've begun to raise daughters more like sons... but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.” 

“so whatever you want to do, just do it...Making a damn fool of yourself is absolutely essential.” 

“Writing is the only thing that when I do it, I don't feel I should be doing something else.” 

“You're always the person you were when you were born," she says impatiently. "You just keep finding new ways to express it.” 

“Empathy is the most radical of human emotions.” 

“A woman reading Playboy feels a little like a Jew reading a Nazi manual.” 

“we are the women our parents warned us against, and we are proud” 

“The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn but to unlearn.” 

“Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.” 

“Laughter is a rescue. p.204” 

“One day an army of gray-haired women may quietly take over the Earth!” 

“If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?” 

“A pedestal is as much a prison as any small, confined space.” 

“Women are always saying,"We can do anything that men can do." But Men should be saying,"We can do anything that women can do.”

“I do not like to write - I like to have written.” 

“When humans are ranked instead of linked, everyone loses.” 

“Decisions are best made by the people affected by them.” 

“Also, one of the simplest paths to deep change is for the less powerful to speak as much as they listen, and for the more powerful to listen as much as they speak.” 

“This is no simple reform. It really is a revolution. Sex and race because they are easy and visible differences have been the primary ways of organizing human beings into superior and inferior groups and into the cheap labor on which this system still depends. We are talking about a society in which there will be no roles other than those chosen or those earned. We are really talking about humanism.” 

“We need to remember across generations that there is as much to learn as there is to teach. ” 

“If you find yourself drawn to an event against all logic, go. The universe is telling you something.” 

“Dying seems less sad than having lived too little.” 

“Having someone who looks like us but thinks like them is worse than having no one at all.” 

“Law and justice are not always the same. When they aren't, destroying the law may be the first step toward changing it.” 

“Remember: "For want of a nail, the horseshoe was lost, for want of a horseshoe, the horse was lost, for want of a horse, the battle was lost, for want of a battle, the war was lost." This parable should be the mantra of everyone who thinks her or his vote doesn't count.” 

“Self-esteem isn't everything; it's just that there's nothing without it.” 

“Each others' lives are our best textbooks.” 

“The art of life is not controlling what happens to us, but using what happens to us” 

“If you want people to listen to you, you have to listen to them. If you hope people will change how they live, you have to know how they live. If you want people to see you, you have to sit down with them eye-to-eye.” 

“No man can call himself liberal, or radical, or even a conservative advocate of fair play, if his work depends in any way on the unpaid or underpaid labor of women at home, or in the office.” 

“Swiftboating enters the English language as a verb that means attacking strength instead of weakness. In feminist and other social justice contexts, this has long been called trashing, attacking leaders for daring to write, speak, or lead at all. Taking away the good is even more lethal than pointing out the bad. p.189” 

“A lot of my generation are living out the un-lived lives of our mothers.”

“We might have known sooner that the most reliable predictor of whether a country is violent within itself—or will use military violence against another country—is not poverty, natural resources, religion, or even degree of democracy; it’s violence against females. It normalizes all other violence.” 

“I began to see that for some, religion was just a form of politics you couldn’t criticize.” 

“Happy or Unhappy, families are all mysterious. ” 

“Don't think about making women fit the world -- think about making the world fit women." ” 

“Altogether, if I'd been looking at nothing but the media all these years, I would be a much more discouraged person-especially given the notion that only conflict is news, and that objectivity means being evenhandedly negative.” 

“Always ask the turtle.” 

“no one ever got radicalized by being grateful” 

“No wonder studies show that women's intellectual self-esteem tends to go down as years of education go up. We have been studying our own absence.” 

“I wonder: If you think of someone you love, do you become a little more like them? I would like to think so.” 

“Her searches after knowledge were arbitrary and without context. It was as if she were shining a small flashlight of curiosity into the dark room of the world.” 

“The road is messy in the way that real life is messy. It leads us out of denial and into reality, out of theory and into practice, out of caution and into action, out of statistics and into stories—in short, out of our heads and into our hearts.” 

“Power can be taken, but not given. The process of the taking is empowerment in itself.” 

“It’s said that the biggest determinant of our lives is whether we see the world as welcoming or hostile. Each becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.”

“When the past dies, there is mourning, but when the future dies our imaginations are compelled to carry it on.” 

“We'll never solve the feminization of power until we solve the masculinity of wealth.” 

“Anybody who is experiencing something is more expert in it than the experts.” 

“Instead of either/or, I discovered a whole world of and.” 

“The root of oppression is the loss of memory.”