“When we think of the past it's the beautiful things we pick out. We want to believe it was all like that.”

“The only way you can write the truth is to assume that what you set down will never be read. Not by any other person, and not even by yourself at some later date. Otherwise you begin excusing yourself. You must see the writing as emerging like a long scroll of ink from the index finger of your right hand; you must see your left hand erasing it.”

“Water does not resist. Water flows. When you plunge your hand into it, all you feel is a caress. Water is not a solid wall, it will not stop you. But water always goes where it wants to go, and nothing in the end can stand against it. Water is patient. Dripping water wears away a stone. Remember that, my child. Remember you are half water. If you can't go through an obstacle, go around it. Water does.”

“I read for pleasure and that is the moment I learn the most.”

“Longed for him. Got him. Shit.”

“If you knew what was going to happen, if you knew everything that was going to happen next—if you knew in advance the consequences of your own actions—you'd be doomed. You'd be ruined as God. You'd be a stone. You'd never eat or drink or laugh or get out of bed in the morning. You'd never love anyone, ever again. You'd never dare to.”

We were the people who were not in the papers. We lived in the blank white spaces at the edges of print. It gave us more freedom. We lived in the gaps between the stories.”

“Better never means better for everyone... It always means worse, for some.”

“But who can remember pain, once it’s over? All that remains of it is a shadow, not in the mind even, in the flesh. Pain marks you, but too deep to see. Out of sight, out of mind.”

“I don't want to see anyone. I lie in the bedroom with the curtains drawn and nothingness washing over me like a sluggish wave. Whatever is happening to me is my own fault. I have done something wrong, something so huge I can't even see it, something that's drowning me. I am inadequate and stupid, without worth. I might as well be dead.”

“Ignoring isn’t the same as ignorance, you have to work at it.”

“Love blurs your vision; but after it recedes, you can see more clearly than ever. It's like the tide going out, revealing whatever's been thrown away and sunk: broken bottles, old gloves, rusting pop cans, nibbled fishbodies, bones. This is the kind of thing you see if you sit in the darkness with open eyes, not knowing the future.”

“In the spring, at the end of the day, you should smell like dirt.”

“Another belief of mine: that everyone else my age is an adult, whereas I am merely in disguise.”

“Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.”

“Don't let the bastards grind you down.”

“A word after a word after a word is power.”

“I would like to be the air that inhabits you for a moment only. I would like to be that unnoticed and that necessary.”

“War is what happens when language fails.”

"You know that old saying, 'A way to a man's heart is through his stomach' - that's me."

“Republicans are for both the man and the dollar, but in case of conflict the man before the dollar.” 

“Determine that the thing can and shall be done and then... find the way.” 

“Let no feeling of discouragement prey

“Die when I may, I want it said of me by those who knew me best, that I always plucked a thistle and planted a flower where I thought a flower would grow.”