People now know of the word intervention and think they understand what it means, but more often than not they go about intervening the wrong way. I see people staging things on their own. But discussing the nature of somebody's condition over breakfast isn't an intervention.

Just like everybody else, celebrities have brains and those brains get conditions - addiction, depression.

What people have trouble getting their head around is the idea that a celebrity, somebody whom they admire, somebody who seems to have everything, would even be depressed.

Romeo and Juliet' is two love addicts acting out, and look how that ended.

If people fit together, they fit for a reason. It's usually the sickest part of one person fitting into the attraction of the sickest part of another.

If you have a history of being attracted to people who have failed you in relationships, find people that aren't so exciting and aren't quite so attractive. Try that on for size and see if you can tolerate that.

Particularly women need to pay attention to what is unique to their own personal biology and emotional systems, and not deny it.

We are trying to learn from the consequences of one's peers' actions.

A little whiff of a mental health issue never hurt anybody.

You should hear all the people talking to me about Heath Ledger, and yet I'm the only person shooting his mouth off out there about what everyone actually already knows.

Families that have addicted members learn to operate with secrecy.

In the late 90s I was hired to participate in a 2 year initiative discussing intimacy and depression which was funded by an educational grant by Glaxo Wellcome.

When you get your viral load down to zero, you reduce the risk of transmission of HIV by 90 percent.

It's so self-evident that I have to live my own history, to remind people the fact that I got into radio back in the early '80s was because of AIDS and HIV. It was what motivated me - that was the topic that I felt was so important that I had to talk about it, educating young people about it.

What people think when they see me on TV is that they're experiencing me but they're not.

I won't do any print interviews anymore. No matter what I say, it gets distorted.

Trauma super charges addiction and makes it really bad. It doesn't necessarily cause it, though it can trigger it. It's not necessarily the issue but if you have bad addiction, it's there.

I trust my recovering peers completely. I'll occasionally look sideways at them because they're addicts but it would break my heart and surprise me to find out that any of these people were lying. Still, addiction is cunning and baffling and you never know.

Back in the day, I was the first non-recovering doctor working in recovery. People would say, 'You can't do that! We need recovering guys in this.' But usually recovering doctors have a lot of baggage and so there's a certain amount of liability with a recovering doctor. But of course it can be ideal.

I've had people that I've given up on, kicked out - situations where I was becoming part of the problem because I was sort of enabling so I said, 'Godspeed, farewell.' And they've come back to me four years later and they're in a CDAAC program or they're getting a PhD.

I always hate taking categorical positions.

Trauma survivors have a deficiency in their capacity to regulate emotions - they're too prolonged and too intense and too negative. As a corollary to affect regulation, self-esteem, sense of self and inter-personal functioning all goes downhill. And that's a chronic thing that's solved in an-inter personal context.

I'm interested in interpersonal space.

Humans need intimacy. We've destroyed it in our country.